I know I'm not the only one with troubles but I am to the point of being desperate enough to turn to the internet in hopes of help for my 63 year old mother...
Ever since she was a teen, she worked very hard for everything she ever had. Nothing was ever given to her. As years went by she raised 2 children by herself and did an awesome job. Nothing we ever had was new, but what we had was well cared for. She remarried sometime after the death of her first husband, and then sadly lost her new husband to alcoholism, and he too passed on. Some years later she lost her son in a homicide/suicide, not long after the birth of her first grandchild. Then her mother passed away after a long battle with cancer. Financially she struggled, and struggled hard for many years, sometimes barely affording food or medicines for herself when she had to have them. Makes me cry thinking how she use to hand-scrub floors for people for 2-3 hours a day after school and handed 50 cents for her work, and at times that money was expected to be handed over to her family to help with bills.
Several years ago her brother placed her on his bank account in the event that something should ever happen to him. A few years later she was facing financial difficulties beyond anything she ever could have imagined. Her significant other had passed away after years of fighting several illnesses and he left her with huge bills. Her daughter had been tending to her brothers while she was at work. One brother needed transportation to and from chemo and radiation treatments and her daughter's car was becoming unreliable. So her brother who she was on the account with told her to take less than half of his account. Exact orders were for her to get her daughter a reliable vehicle that would last at a reasonable price and for her to take care of the bills she was heading into collection with. They agreed and she went to the bank and took out the money. The car was purchased, and the bills were taken care of and there was still money left over. However, as this poor woman's life has shown, troubles were lurking in the eaves, and no one could have ever expected this. Her brother whom she was on the account with had fallen ill and ended up hospitalized. He contracted a staph infection while in the hospital and due to diabetic complications and the staph, lost his leg just below the knee. He ended up being placed in a nursing home, and an elder attorney got involved. She was made to consolidate all his assets into one account, and she was ordered NOT to spend any of his money unless told so by the attorney, which she did not.
Her other brother with cancer is now hopitalized and ontop of his cancer was diagnosed with Parkinson's Disease. The end of his life will be very soon as narated by his doctor's.
A call came in from the nursing home where her other brother is and said there is now a problem with him staying there, thanks to medicaid. The money her brother gave to her is expected to be paid to the nursing home or he is going to be asked to leave there. She contacted her brother's attorney who was able to colaborate on what the nursing home said. The nursing home basically made this woman out as a theif. She would never steal a thing from anyone. She did exactly what she was told, followed the rules, and it seems there were other rules in place she was not made aware of and now owes a huge sum of money, and can not repay the nursing home, and she is overwhelmed with the fact that her brother who desperately needs the care of the nursing home, may in fact may be removed and not get the care he needs.
I am begging for someone with some financial stability to please help my mother and her family. She is agood woman who has lived a life of hell, and doesn't deserve to have this on her plate on top of everything else she is going through. Everything I have placed in this letter can be verified and I'm willing to show proof of everything I have placed in this letter. I am also willing to speak personally to anyone who can help and explain details of any other information they may need or want. I can't even help my mother, because I have been doing in kind work taking care of her brothers and I too am financially strapped and can't even afford a birthday for my 7 year old.
I just don't understand how life can be so cruel to one family, and how things always seem to hit at once.
